Interesting...back when I was LD I read these things CONSTANTLY. Now, I'm HD and might read 2 or 3 per year.
Just a thought here....while it is easy as a reader of a romance novel to escape into it to enjoy what you are experiencing...it's also a detachment. She isn't experiencing that excitment with you, she's not putting her feelings and emotions out there with you...she's not making herself vulnerable to you.....she's doing it where it's safe, in a book. And yes, that is a problem.
I admit, I'm a reader of these types of novels (although I read many other things too), these are my main type of "enjoyment" when reading. BUT...I've also been known to read some of it out loud to my H and just laugh my butt off because it is so obscenely unrealistic, which is EXACTLY why it fits into the "fiction" genre. But, I do think sometimes some women forget they are reading fiction and not real life stories. If I were to sit down and write a real-life romance novel, it wouldn't sell a single copy. It would be boring to read....at least for most people.
That's why I'm making notes on my experiences as to what I'm currently going through, the mistakes I've made in the past in my R's and the successes. One of my best friends (who is studying to be a sex therapist) and I have deiced to join forces and write (yes, one of the days you'll see this on your local bookstore shelf) "The Road to a Healthy Marriage...Roadkill not included!" I've already designed the book cover!
It's going to be written with a HUGE sense of humor, lots of comic illustrations (No, this won't be the Kama Sutra for Dummies, that's the sequel) and a serious undertone.
