It's actually funny to me that you mention how we women twist men's words around, and I will agree...that does sometimes happen, just as men sometimes twist ours. It's part of the gender differences....we hear/communicate differently.
This is something I've had to teach my H. I am a woman who truly does want honesty. If I ask my H if my butt looks big in these pants....he darned well better tell me if it does...I don't want to be wearing them out if they make my rear look larger than it is in reality LOL. See, when I (just one woman speaking here) ask a question like that...I'm not fishing for a compliment, I am actually looking for his honest opinion on what I'm wearing.
It's taken time but he's learned that with me anyway...I value that type of honesty. He's stuck his neck out a few times lately to give me his honest opinion when I've asked....and I've really appreciated it. As I explained to him in the C's office one day....when I ask you for your opinion on something I need to be able to trust that you, the person I'm the closest to, will always tell me the truth. No, I may not always like what I hear...but I will know you were honest with me, and for me that is VERY important.
Now, I know I'm not like all women on this. Some women do fish for compliments. Just wanted you to know though, that there are those of us out there who really do want an honest answer when you are asked what you think is a loaded question
