Okay I am going to expand on what Gel is saying and put my 2 cents in.
To me what Gel said (For a 45 year old man, I am in pretty darn good shape and yes, I am decent looking.)
Doesn't come across very convincing to me. A convincing statement to me would be...Yes, I am an attractive man.
and what Blackfoot said
Isn't the goal to have a passionate marriage? I dont know. Is it your goal? Then say it with conviction and stop making it a question. You sound lost when you do that. Have a direction
Both of these comments have one thing in common. They do not end with the feeling of a positive statement. They both lack a passion and definitive air to them. Which leaves the speaker sounding like he lacks conviction in what he is saying. A more powerful usage of words that showed more conviction would have better suited CeMar in both statements it would have left no room for debate.
That being said. I myself liked CeMars response. I feel it to be honest and realistic. Modesty is not unmacho or does not take away from a persons masculinity at least to me. If he would have implied he was all that and a bag of chips with a six pack to boot. It would have fit more into my image of him in my minds eye. It would go more along with that IT IS MY WAY OR NOT GOOD ENOUGH stance he takes. So all in all I think his response was helpful to shed a different light on him.
