Quote: (For a 45 year old man, I am in pretty darn good shape and yes, I am decent looking.)
Gel, I think like CeMar on this one because I know if I were in a Mr Hunk contest I would not be in the top ten. I am not concerned with being in the top ten either. I have what I have and use what I have the best I can. I don't need to be better than someone else. I just have to use what I have in a reasonably good order. I am also very realistic and not much into false ego boosting.
I used to inspect Army vehicles for combat reddiness. Each component (tires, batteries, engine, drivetrain, steering, etc) had a point value. If something was less than perfect, the number on the combat reddiness sheet was posted. Say new tires had 10 points each, half worn tires were rated at 5 points.
As an inspector, I had to be honest and after a while you are OK with less than perfect scores. Not everything can be a 10 and there is still a lot of milage left in 5 point items.
Maybe my analogy is too sinplistic/mechanical and I know being a beauty or a hunk sometimes is in the eye of the viewer, but it might explain some how the male mind works.
And about blackfoots comment about his W being hot but only a 9, I can go along with that too. I can feel a 10 for a good hearted, relationship skilled person, that looks like a 5 on the outside once I get to know them. Yes some things do turn me off. I am not totally influenced by inner beauty.
All this talk by young people about being a hunk or a babe is just initial attraction. Without the other personal qualities that people have to keep a R going, beauty/hunkieness soon loses out.
Give me a 5 looks wise that floats my boat in all ot he other ways anyday. Tens with poor relationship skills don't cut it.
Just go to Walmart and look at people and imagine how couples interact with each other. Good looking person with a fat plain looking spouse. Are they still in love? I don't have the answer but I think many are. How many 10's do you see at WalMart? Do the 5's need as much love or deserve less love than the 10's?
And they say guys go for looks!
GEL I don't know what you look like but I feel some caring in your posts. That means so much more to me than physical looks. GEL I think you are a 10 on the screen because you seem to have what it takes make a relationship go foward.
Quote: Women do seem to find a certain amount of self-confidence appealing & attractive
Point taken GEL and blackfoot, and I will remember your suggestion because I do see what lack of self-confidence does to women.
