CeMar Ill be right with you.

Ladies I started reading your responses, and I laughed so hard, I dropped my laptop. Damnit.

out of that entire post that was the one thing each of you focused on.
Do you know that each one of you (almost)
1 personalized my off hand remark that popped out of my head and
2 simultaneously tried to figure out how that fit into my x affair. completely mis-read and mis-interpreted it again. Your little jabs make me yawn. The reason to x affair is in my thread. complete and unvarnished. I exposed my mistakes completely. If you were able to ask her -x would say -sex and me being overbearing had nothing to do with it. I have already rebuilt my masculinity(love that phrase by the way) and my insecurities only exists in the context of a relationship with her, and him being alive. (this doesnt mean I wish him dead -just wont have a relationship with her as long as he is.)

I am here to continue my self- improvement and as a distraction to keep me from the unhealthy dating I was in for a couple months there, trying to avoid my pain,and from the pain in my scapulae while I am sitting around the house recovering. I hope to treat my next SO as SHE needs to be, without subjecting her to a situation where she has no repreive from OM who is copying me and given opportunity to make relevant emotional memories with her consistantly, so that she is not tempted to enter PIP's current HELL. (LORD, give her strength.)

After the first fiasco in HP's thread I thought --hmmm I am not going to post in the womens threads anymore. They are to sensitive to handle me and I am here to hopefully help guys learn about attraction. stick to that. But the following conversations were so educational and some great ideas were shared.

So tough.
I am going to keep it up. I will be me and say how it is. If you dont like me in your thread you are welcome to say so, and I will respect that and post no more, in your thread.

And now CeMar is talking, grudgingly albeit, and you guys are in here cluttering up his thread with your curiosity about my former sex life. sheesh. so fine this may get graphic, but lets disect what I said, and remove your filters you all ran it thru.

Do you seriously think I have spent so much time understanding female attraction to feed some insecurity.
No. Its so I can connect with the woman of my choice and we can emotionally connect and bang each others brains out. Leaving her high and dry on a regular basis would sure defeat that. Gosh I have to spell out everything. j/k

Personally when I am having sex regularly I perfer to not give her a climax every time. They dont need the frequency like we do and it keeps the woman unsatisfied and amped up and eager for the next encounter.

When I am having sex regularly,
I does not mean you and your spouse. regularly for us was between 5-8x/wk, sometime more. There were times we were apart. I sure as hell made sure she (and we) were nothing but a limp, semi-conscious, puddle of satisfaction when we reunited. You wouldnt believe if I said how long, or how many times, and at any rate it is irrelavant to the fact that we were both happy.

I perfer to not give her a climax every time.

The key word here is GIVE. my x and I traded HDness only in the sense of who initiated, She was completely capable of taking charge and getting her own in several positions with me just there for erection life support. we had a verbal agreement that lasted the entire duration of our relationship 'anytime -anywhere', which was only vetoed by me a couple times because someplaces are just going too far. Risky is fine. Jail for public indecency or lewd conduct, ending up being a sex offender because of some aggresive ADA is not. and vetoed by her for the usual female complaints-UTI -rarely her period. Neither of us cared but she always checked to see if I really didnt.

They dont need the frequency like we do
This is a physiological fact. Men need frequent ejaculation for prostate health and hormone balance. Sex is as important for our health as exercise or brushing are teeth. Have your LDH read the articles on msnbc.com under health.
You lucky HDW have tapped into your physical selves and the addictive chemicals that result - many woman have not, and created emotional connections with it. I get it. Ditto. There are some HDH that havent- it is just nose blowing for them, a body function. Some guys feel a need to repress and control-- and some just have a habit of feeding the hunger x number times a week. Variety-- just like women are different.

the woman unsatisfied and amped up and eager for the next encounter
If you grab a quicky in the car, or the shower before work, how many of you ladies would have an O? I bet all of you would be thinking about it thruout the day and looking to continue and finish in the evening.
In most cases with our SOP sex I would give her 3 O's with cunnilingus before we would start IC and if she had some during or right after then hooray for her. When we would swap HD places ,figuratively speaking, there were many times when we would have sex and I would not finish. Im sure if you wnat to count O's she is 5 to 1 winner. Sometimes my need, or hunger would diminish. occasionally she would just use me. guess what-- I was unsatisfied and amped up and starting the cycle all over again PDQ. I have been used ,abused and cast aside by her in less then 5 minutes.

Like GEL said its all give and take. By the way GEL dont worry about hurting my feelings. I appreciated your second post but take it easy or I will get a big head.

I can take any smack you ladies can dish out.

HP I am getting under your skin a little to much. That is not my intention. I know your H is a pretty strong man to handle a woman like you. Feel free to take your frustration out on me. I recommend maybe renting a comedy or going out to a comedy club or dinner theatre if they have those in your town. Laughter is a great release all on its own.

I am glad I made this statement. 2beme had some personal insights because of it.

The squeals of indignation and outrage coming from you teriffically intelligent girls is music to my soul. I really really dig smart chicks. and really dig pulling there chains.
Lil Ill be over to your thread I promise, there is a lot in there that I am trying to wrap my head around still.
Chrissy thanks for validating some of what I said since this is a thread for Captain Obvious.

Alrighty then I hear the harummphing and impatient finger tapping of said Captain Obvious, waiting for answers to his supposedly unsolvable sitch. (eyes rolling). I am coming sir. bow and scrape, bow and scrape.