Quote: We trigger the sex drive. We have the testosterone at a minimum 10x more.
Could you expand upon this?
Quote: It causes me to resent her AND to disrespect myself Tough love buddy...only your perception of your self can cause you to direspect yourself. change your perception. I have touched on this briefly but, barring sexual abuse situations, and often even in those-- it is the mans mental state that dictates the relationship.
Are you talking about the stromg, confident man, or does this mean something more? Would a strong confident man actually stay married to a ND women? I say this cause I know many powerful executives in my company have DUMPED their first wives and now have much younger 2nd wives.
Quote: It causes me to resent her AND to disrespect myself Tough love buddy...only your perception of your self can cause you to direspect yourself. change your perception. I have touched on this briefly but, barring sexual abuse situations, and often even in those-- it is the mans mental state that dictates the relationship.
Again, can you expand upon this?
Quote: Would she read a mystery romance novel?
She reads them constantly. I go to bed alone while she reads these books.
Quote: "the relationship lives and dies based on the head of the house."
Your probably right, but I have no freaking clue as to what to change.
Quote: Isn't the goal to have a passionate marriage?
I dont know. Is it your goal? Then say it with conviction and stop making it a question. You sound lost when you do that. Have a direction.
Yes, my goal is to have a passionate marriage. In my terms, it is the ONLY marriage that is successful. The problem is that passion must be a two way street, which in effect makes desire have to be a two way street. Has any ND ever achieved a PM? Not sure that even in the book PM was there a case of this.
Quote: Do you think your are attractive?
For a 45 year old man, I am in pretty darn good shape and yes, I am decent looking.
