Quote: He continues to tell me he knows why he did what he did, he got to emotionally involved.
????? This is NOT a reason. Why did he LET himself cross that line in the first place? A man his age doesn't know what is and isn't appropriate in a R with another woman? Face it, you and I know to back off immediately as soon as that friendly coworker expresses an amorous interest in us, right???
The question is - WHY did he cross that line with her? What was he looking for? Why didn't he come to YOU if he felt there were problems in the R? Why didn't he suggest counselling if he wasn't happy?
Quote: Counseling, well he goes with me but doesn't think he has a problem.
He cheated for a year and a half but he doesn't think he has a problem????? PUHLEEEZE! I'd say right here is your answer - he's NOT willing to take the responsibility and do the work necessary to become the man you need, despite all his protestations that he wants you and will wait for you. If he doesn't do that work, this will resurface again sometime down the line (I know, I lived it).
It's up to you whether you want him back or not, but don't take him back unless he has done everything you know YOU would do to repair and make amends for such a thing.
And if you DO take him back - then you really do need to forgive and let go. It's true, it's not fair to take him back iof you're going to make him pay forever.
