damnit our communication is all screwed up here. or are you messing with me too?
The picture you are painting of your H is very extreme.
No I would just feel guilty and he would act as if I owed him something.
Why would you feel guilty? The shoe has been on the other foot, AND its the 'norm' ( yikes ducking) for a guy to the the bread winner. Also what would you owe him? Sex? you already 'owe' him that and are giving it to him, from the way you make it sound. That is your perception, he is going to want it anyways Just sex? I dont believe in that. I find everyone I have talked to about this remembers every single person they have had sex with no matter how many or how long ago. I dont remember every person I have played tennis with or taught in my classes or had longer more meaningful encounters then just sex with. There is something to it. . I take it for granted Stop it. enough said.
For insecure guys often times knowing and receiving admiration from their woman leads them to trying harder to get more of it
crap poorly typed, what I meant was trying harder in their endeavors, the confidance they get from their woman believing in them encourages to get out and do more, achieve greater things Much like your previous example of encouraging him to go camping.
You can whine and nag about the christmas tree or say " hey big strong stud muffin can you put the tree in the attic? I love watching you do stuff like that." something like that.
I percieve as needy and clingy and my idealism of what self sufficient
I would not be attracted to a woman who had no "need" for me. There has to be something I do that she wants or there is no security in the R or feeling of being wanted.
lets try another way, I am attracted to womens hairstyles, clothing, makeup etc. Should I do these to attract women? (maybe if I want to go goth LOL) Not generally. I get that feeling sometimes that you are over compensating for you H's neediness and its making it worse. You are acting how you want him to act. You guys have a dynamic.
Does your R have potential? Are you safe? I dont know so I am going to assume yes.
very fearful of them growing older and been thinking about having another one. So I was thinking the puppy was filling that want a baby urge Normal. OK.
he has always been like this. Even in the begining
why where you initially attracted to him? Why did you get married.
not encouraging I was hoping for just the oppisite that if I started giving it he would need less of it
