Most people want to be self sufficient How can people want to be self sufficient yet act needy and clingy? I do not understand that dynamic at all. It may just be me and what I percieve as needy and clingy and my idealism of what self sufficient means that makes me not understand this but you may be able to help me clear this up.
Your H is currently the sole provider, yes? I usually find a way to provide at least 500.00 to 800.00 of income a month. But yes he is the sole provider as in the only one that has been working regularly for the last year and a half. Though I did collect a good amount of unemployment for about 6 months.
How often do you show him that you appreciate that?
Seldom to never. I guess I take it for granted because the shoe has been on the other foot more then once. And this is the first time I have not worked in our relationship. Well I am working at the moment but you know what I mean.
Your not buying anything for yourself except bare bottom (heheh) neccessities says it is more then a want to be self sufficient
Okay meaning?
If you bought yourself a new shirt, or pair of earrings, whatever and thanked him for it.... would there be a catastrophe.
No I would just feel guilty and he would act as if I owed him something.
What is something else you actually do need your H for? There are others.
To me needing someone to do something for you means you are not capable to do it for your self. So though there are things he does for me I can think of none that if I had to I could not do for myself. Maybe I am reading to much into what the word need is defined as.
I wonder if the scheduling sex isnt having a lot to do with that. It does make a bond and it does force both people to want to resolve the conflicts
I may be missing something in this statement. The scheduled sex has been on going for over a year. And to me it is just sex which is fine for me. I do understand to H it is more. But I achieve no EC from the act.
For insecure guys often times knowing and receiving admiration from their woman leads them to trying harder to get more of it
Okay this is not encouraging I was hoping for just the oppisite that if I started giving it he would need less of it. Dam you BF for showing me the error in my thinking
Women are supposed to respect and honor. I screwed up to!
You have a desire, need to show affection, give loving feelings to something/someone. You are giving it to a dog, a type that you dont particularly care for to begin with,
Well I am very loving with my kids. And I have been very fearful of them growing older and been thinking about having another one. So I was thinking the puppy was filling that want a baby urge I had for the moment. But I will give this some thought.
He is partly needy, desperate, and jealous because you are so completely NOT showing any need and or gratitude.
But he has always been like this. Even in the begining. And I was more affectionate before things got so bad. Maybe not gushy lovey dovey but not as reserved. It is not that I do not show him affection at all. It is more like it is never enough and that dicourages me to continue trying.
Ive lumped you in with them now. LOL. Oh goodie I only have to have sex once every few months now! My H will love you for that one
