I disagree following your feelings is a terrible choice. Listening to them, acknowledging them, determing the cause and what to do to remedy the stressor causing them is a much better choice.
So all feelings are caused by stressors? And we should address them and then we no longer feel them? What of the feeling of love? Or were you only speaking of negative feelings?
The insistence on not wanting to need other people is either driven by fear or a desire for self sufficiency
I believe in my case it would be a desire for self sufficiency. If you read my post to IHJ on my thread we had just spoke of this today. But knowing that does not give me insight as to why I feel a need to be self sufficient nor how to change this. Any suggestions? How would you change this behavior?
your affection for and doting on new puppy is interesting
I find it interesting because it is a breed of dog I normally do not like. Why do you find it interesting?
So how to go about changing that. personnally I have been making an effort to ask people for things. Something little, from a friend or family member that I am perfectly capable of doing for myself
So since you are capable of doing it for yourself. Then you do not need them to do it for you. You are allowing them to do it. That is not quite the same as actually needing them to do it for you is it?
Right now I am trying to decide if reconciling with her after D and OM loses interest would be disrespectfull to myself or if not getting back together with her would be a narcisstic injury
Closing a door you are not sure you want closed. I can see where the dilemma would lie in that. It is very wise of you to think something that can become so final all the way through before deciding.
I love reading your post.(I think I am repeating myself with that statement). You have great insight mixed with humor and your self confidence is very stimulating and refreshing. So who cares if it comes off as egotistical!
