"I disagree following your feelings is a terrible choice. Listening to them, acknowledging them, determing the cause and what to do to remedy the stressor causing them is a much better choice."
I don't think all feelings result from stressors or need to be remedied. For example, I would say a feeling of happiness could be "followed" to some degree. Granted, you don't want to go around in "happy happy joy joy" land all the time. That would tend to PO everyone around you.
Anyway, I don't think letting go sometimes and allowing your feelings to guide you is always a bad choice. It is when you allow them to overwhelm you to the point that you start hurting yourself or someone else that you should snap back to reality. Of course, I haven't mastered that snap back to reality ... yet.
"Probably wasted thought, and should wait for it to actually happen" Yes, a wasted thought. Listen to me, I am the master of wasted thoughts.
"The most telling ones are ever since I was young my talents have put me in the 'spotlight' so to speak and I disliked it so much, that I still downplay or dont mention them. I love to teach and have no problem with public speaking, but I shudder at the general idea of being famous. I my be a source of energy in a group, but I prefer to be in the background and instigate others to be the center of attention." Although our talents are (I'm sure) very different, I feel very much the same way. My height (6'9") makes me automatically the center of attention. Couple that with a booming deep voice and a pretty good knowledge of a topic most people find interesting and I can readily be the center of a attention in any gathering. But I'd much rather talk to people one on one than address a group. I almost had a career in music but shied away because I get stage fright sometimes. I really enjoy the preparation, the practice, etc. but nearly always hated the performance.
Haven't read the narcissim stuff because I'm pretty sure it doesn't apply to me. But I enjoy hearing you and cobra talk about it.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
