Sorry, Blackie, to hijack, but all THREE of your children are on ADD meds? My God that is so sad.
I am currently reading a book on ADD treatment because my 3 yo exhibits some weird tendencies that I don't know what to do with. True ADD and ADHD runs in H's family. These are people so affected by this that they have had a lifetime of interpersonal difficulties and school was hell. Still, out of the 3 people in his immediately family I would still only (if I were the doc) prescribe meds for his father. The other 2 are functional.
My intent in reading this book was not to get my daughter a head start on meds (the thought sickens me actually) but to try and come up with alternate ways of dealing with her than screaming and punishing. In her own way, she sets the tone for our entire family. I'd like to change this dynamic, if nothing else.
Anyway, I find it sad and disturbing that any mother would choose to medicate and dull her children's vibrant, individual personalities in favor of "managable" kids.
