first a quote from LFL

While I could express myself very openly with OM, I STILL am not able to do that with H. His anxiety makes me uncomfortable to the point of not wanting to TRULY share myself with him.

This remark plays in exactly to my belief that the mans mental state is what sets the R dynamic. LFL has the desire and demonstrated ability with a man who is not anxious. She wants to, she wants it to be her H. She knows her H is anxious from his body language and words.

YES! Blackfoot hit the nail on the head with this one and whether it is from evolutionary biology or not, it is TRUE. At least for me.
OM was a "typical" man to me in that he did not talk a lot but his behaviors "said" it all. He demonstrated confidence, attitude, sex appeal. etc. It was HOT and just what I was needing at the time. Now I do not think that would have turned into a long lasting R for the simple fact that I like to talk sometimes too, it's not all about the sex
That's why women can be hard to please (I admit that I probably am). I want a man with both aggressive/masculine/HD sexual qualities as well as a man that is sensitive, a good conversationalist, stimulates my mind as well as body, has similar interests, you get the idea.
Here's some introspection: This is probably why I am drawn to you and Globule. Both of you hold qualitites that I am very attracted to in a man. So There! I'm not ashamed to admit it. Once again, I am very AWARE of my behaviors and feelings. Doesn't mean I can always control it though Or more likely, I CHOOSE not to control it because I get something out of those behaviors/feelings that I need. Hmm...
Enough about me, let's get to you. What's the deal with the continued pursuit by the ex. Why did you have such a crappy weekend? Do share. I'm sincerly interested.