Chrissy If OM was still in the picture, H and I would not be reconciling right now. So yes, I see the big difference between my M and Blackfoot's M. He also does not have children which is a major factor in many reconciliations.
But, we all want "intense love" as you stated and I think it IS possible to gain that with someone even though major hurts have been experienced. In fact, the hurts can make the R that much more intense and meaningful in the end. Made it through the storm so to speak and now are more determined than ever to build a better M. It can happen IF both people want that. I'm just telling Blackfoot he can keep that door open if both he and hiw W choose to. It is obviously something they, and not any of us, can determine. Still, I don't think Blackfoot would be on this board if he did not have some hope to mend the R/M. He'd be out trolling the bars for fresh meat
