Quote: I have a lot of residual emotion for her. Logically she has no value to me anymore, i.e. trust, loyalty, honesty. Spiritually, scripturally, and in a few days legally, she left in all ways, and I am a free man. I am OK with moving on. If she stops the divorce, and wants to reconcile in the 11th hour, which doesnt seem unlikely now after last night, I am going to be PISSSED. I dont call her, dont email her, dont promise ANY changes, and apologized for my uncalled for outburst months ago when it happened.
I found this on another thread Blackfoot and wanted to comment on it on your own thread. I don't blame you for having that PISSED feeling about her calling in the 11th hour. It sounds like she wants to reconcile, maybe? I can relate to those feelings myself. H came back into the picture just when I was finally moving on and feeling pretty good without him. I was pissed off, how could he fuc* with my head? Is he serious? Why now? etc BUT, I am so glad that we did. It took a while to really embrace him again but I feel like we are there now. Maybe you can get there with your ex. I know you said "logically" you have no reason to get back together with her but neither did I really (other than the kids). Trust was broken. I felt like he betrayed me. Never thought we could make an honest effort at reconciliation. I was wrong. I've mentioned on another thread about trust, that it can actually be damaging to a M when the couple gets lazy. They never think the other one will leave them so they can get away with murder within the R and the other person will take it. If that does not lead to a broken M it will definitely lead to an unhappy one. I think you and the ex could rebuild your trust in each other. Why not? You say you still love her. I'm sure she still loves you or she would not be reaching out to you now. You could have a totally new M on new terms. Fix your mistakes. Make it work. So, what do you think????????????
