Quote: I'm just saying the most likely, easiest, cathartic response (bitching back, etc) is not necessarily the most effective response. Certainly not when trying to reconcile.
It used to be if I brought up something, all to often the reply was " do you want a Divorce?" She never wanted to talk about the issue. Question: If BB is crabby 90% of the time, am I supposed to be Mr nice and controled 90% of the time? I tried that and got little respect.
Quote: Don't men have control over any of their emotions?
When I do, sometimes I am called a "wooden indian" (someone who does not talk or show motions).
I guess I stuffed things down too much and had blow ups because of trying to smooth things out. I am betting better at bringing up issues without letting them go so long and there are more controlled talks.
Pleast post any replies on my thread. I don't want to dilute Blackfoots thread with my issues.
LFL, I admire you for dumping the OM and working on your M.
