Thanks for sharing your story. The first impression I had was "Thankfully they don't have kids." It really complicates things. Much easier to walk away when little lives aren't at stake. When you stated you "almost" had an affair with your production assistant, are you using the Clinton definition of sex (strictly intercourse), because it seems like you did have an emotional affair, no? I must say you come across fairly cocky in your post(s) and I'm sure that your xW felt that as well. I found your comment "not the hottest, but hot enough" about her very interesting. Maybe you didn't mean anything by that but if I heard my H describe me that way I would take offense. Maybe she turned to OM because she always felt "hot" with him? Just thinking, but could be way off base. You also come across as very thoughtful and intelligent. That is very attractive. I'm sure those are some of the things she loved about you. Unfortunatly, when you tried to get back together your macho side won out over your thoughtful/intelligent side. You did just about everything wrong at that point (verbally abusive, etc). She seemed to be reaching out to you at several points and you blew it. I'm not saying I would have done any different and that is why I am so hesitent to embrace my own H because he seems to be handling the whole OM situation a little too well if you know what I mean. Still, I think you and xW clearly have a very passionate history and there is a lot to build on there. It is not unheard of for people to get remarried after D. I have enjoyed your insights on this board and hope you keep posting.
