Hey, YoYo! I'm glad you mentioned the "AS IF ATTITUDE" post being from Dr. Harley...It was sent to me long ago, and I've always thought it was from him or perhaps his son, but not sure....I've always found it so helpful, still do in fact, and hope maybe others can get as much help from it as i have. It has some very good recommendations, ie, not returning hurt for hurt....meeting needs a little bit at a time, etc.,
Anyway, I had to jump back in when I read your posts!
Quote: Why should I make my H angry with me, and drive him towards the b#tch??? Everytime I am almost sad...I just think of not giving the whore her cake, and I would instantly perk up. As VJ said "NEVER do anything that will make OW HAPPY!".
YEP, exactly!!!!! that was part of my inspiration. I used to tell myself, "she may win (sure looked for a while like she had)but its gonna be the most hellish fight she ever had in her life and she will never forget it". Kinda kept my fire lit enough to keep going!
Quote: I think most ppl would have thought that I would KICK my H out the moment I find out. I think OW also thought that. My H certainly thought that.
Yep, that's exactly what monster thought and H has told me quite often that he thought that was what I would do too, just say "Ok, whatever, go then" and that would be the end of it/us. hehehehehehehe. As mean spirited as it is, I have to say I take great delight to this day in recalling what H told me about one of monster's temper tantrums, when she pitched a fit that H hadn't moved in with her, screaming and yelling at him that "your wife used the dirtiest trick in the book"! because I didnt throw him out. I guess it drove her absolutely nuts, made her pitch hellish fits of anger, pushing and hitting H, yelling and screaming. oh, darn, did I cause that just by being the person he always wanted?
Quote: I am sure OW or her parents will start pestering H to have D and marry OW...
I believe you'd be safe betting the farm on that one!
Quote: time is on my side... Version that I have in my mind is the one from the Denzel Washington show...can't remember the title...but about the dark angel that was cast down from heaven...able to pass from one being to another by touch..what was the title?
oooohhhh, yeah! I forgot about that show, really good and REALLY scary! I think it's called "Fallen"??????? I may have to watch that again. I dont' think H has ever seen it, he's scared to death of scary movies. Go figure.
Quote: And he said that he knows that too, and that he will do the right thing...just to stop bugging him
My H said almost the exact same things, I think his words were that he knew it had to end, it was just hard, that I should know he always does "the right thing" because I probably know him better than anyone else on earth, and that I needed to give him space and be patient. Where do these guys buy this script they read?????
Quote: he said we are NOT to have any s#x until he has sorted himself out. ...
Darn, YoYo! that sounds like a challenge that needs to be taken on to me!!! Hehehehehe...If nothing else this experience has turned me into a naughty woman! what an opportunity to have some fun with a "ok, what ever you say, look but dont touch" attitude...(and of course a little innocent "flash" now and then, I mean who knows when that thong will ride up, or skirt, or those darn buttons on blouses can sneak right out of the button holes without a person knowing it at the most inopportune times, huh? and then those sexy low-cut bras that slip and slide until who knows what might get seen!!!! I mean, whatever could he be looking at when those "wardrobe malfunctions" happen????? Of course, it certainly goes along with the great motto "never do anything to make the ow happy"!!! (did I mention I LOVE that?)
