Deb - Thanks for the long post and the copied advice from Dr. Harley.

YoYo, I so admire your spirit,
I think this was owed in part to OW's eagerness to be the MISSUS... by sending her stuff to H's house, and all. SHe is sooo low and cheap and such a b#tch that it really drove me almost mad!! And really doesn't deserve my H. I know he is a good person (when aliens return his brain) and shouldn't destroy his values with this low life skank. Before my trip to Country X. I never thought about HOLDING on to my H and not letting go. But the night after our big bust-up on Saturday, I woke up in the middle of the night with renewed energy to KEEP my H for myself. Why should I make my H angry with me, and drive him towards the b#tch??? Everytime I am almost sad...I just think of not giving the whore her cake, and I would instantly perk up. As VJ said "NEVER do anything that will make OW HAPPY!". Have to really keep that in mind all the time!!

ow will most likely do herself in
I really hope the above is true. I think most ppl would have thought that I would KICK my H out the moment I find out. I think OW also thought that. My H certainly thought that. Yesterday (Wed), he called my office and we sort of touched on "me making my decision already". For a moment, he thought that I have decided to KICK him out...He he he... I said NO... I will never give up. He was starting to be irritated and boil. But I kept my composure and was really nice and cheeky...and even said ILY. I think he was kinda shocked and confused. I am sure OW or her parents will start pestering H to have D and marry OW... I do have to be patient... I did tell him via text yesterday to take his time, and I won't bug him.

time is on my side...
Version that I have in my mind is the one from the Denzel Washington show...can't remember the title...but about the dark angel that was cast down from heaven...able to pass from one being to another by touch..what was the title? But anyway, the way it was sung..is a little eerie...he he he...
Today, I did text H to tell him that my instinct tells me that he will come running back to me after the aliens have returned his brain back to him. And he said that he knows that too, and that he will do the right thing...just to stop bugging him. Before my trip to Country X. I never thought about HOLDING on to my H and not letting go. But the night after our big bust-up on Saturday, I woke up in the middle of the night with renewed energy to KEEP my H for myself. Why should I make my H angry with me, and drive him towards the b#tch??? Everytime I am almost sad...I just think of not giving the whore her cake, and I would instantly perk up.

H did come over to my mom's today. His mom was there too. Been in cahoots (sic?) with my MIL... so, she has been asking him "when are the boys and I going to Country X to visit you?" H at first told her to come with my SIL..but my MIL was quick to say "She's got her H. SHe won't come. Besides, I want to be with my grandsons..". I think she said a few more times till H was quite fed-up. I've roped in MIL to do the AS-IFs too...as-if that all is fine and that we will be together soon. MIL and I were chatting about my niece, aunts etc etc... H very well knows that his mom will never accept the OW (because of the betrayal by FIL. MIL hates OWs...). After H has gone (he had a work function), my MIL was like "good...make OW jealous. If he is lying to her, like he lied to you..good ....good" She really agreed that I don't budge from being the legal missus. Later, when we were saying the goodbyes, I said that I was gonna go do an errand for H before I head home, and she said "huh? I can't believe you are still doing all these for him! If you were my daughter, I would have scolded you to high heaven."...thought that was rather funny... The less support s/he gets, the better it is for you and him/her and the relationship. Few people remain in the same place if they are not supported in that place. My SILs and aunts on H's side all DO NOT support the A, of course. Neither do our closest friends. So, hopefully, the A will die out soon.

I know my this post is a bit wishy washy.... I have been pestering H to let me stay with him in the hotel since Monday... and he kept on saying NO NO NO. A bit cheesed off.... blah blah blah. Up until this morning, he said we are NOT to have any s#x until he has sorted himself out. ... Guessed what??? We had a real quickie in my mom's house... and then H commented "Why are you sooo h#rny these day? Have troubling handling you!" And after that, again he asked "so, even after two years ...you are not going to sign?" (the D papers). I just shook my head...and he said "Then how?". I answered "I don't know...you sort out". Then H just sat on the couch very quietly...and luckily S5 came to talk to me...so it wasn't that awkward!So, although I've been pursuing in these few days, I don't think there is too many backward steps. SO far no anger (except a little bit this morning, when H told me he cant have dinner, and I sulked a bit - Yup bad YOYO... and he got upset...but then I sent him a text with humour...and he did reply albeit seriously).

WIll continue posting tomorrow...running out of battery on my laptop