Yoyo have a really good read of what Debcb put in that post as it is so true. I myself have only really just realised that now that I am trying to piece my M with H.
Unfortunately sometimes I think we need to make all the mistakes first and learn the hard way that what she is saying is the truth. B/c it is so out of our comfort zone it doesn't always sit well with us but eventually we do realise that it is the only thing that heeds results.