Kismet/BigAl - you two really made me laugh!!!! No more XXX version this time. I've toned it down to maybe a R rating.
Journalling... Last night: While putting the boys in bed, I heard that my home phone ringing. But because I was upstairs, didn't run down to answer the phone. When I came back to my room, saw that I had a missed call on my mobile, and a minute later, I got a text. It was from H "Tried calling but no answer. Will try again later...". Indeed, he did call me. H: Have just set up the music system downstairs. Am having dinner - KFC, drinking Corona and listening to music. Me: So, enjoying yourself? The single life? H: Don't you hear me calling you? Me: Mmmmm H: WHy are you sounding cold? Me: No. Nothing much happening over here. Anyway, how's your job? H proceeded to tell me about his job, and his day at work yesterday blah blah. Chit-chat and then he seemed eager to go. So, didn't keep him on the line, and said bye.
Next morning, i.e Today (Wednesday; got a call from H at about 8.55 am. H: Are you in the office? Me: No. H: How come so late and you are not in the office? Me: Had breakfast with the boys and went to the bookshop. Why? Is there something that you needed me to do at the office? H: Do you want to bring the boys over this weekend? Can book through KLM. I was thinking I would be sooo busy next week when I come back. Plus I haven't seen the boys for awhile. Me: I thought you said that booking must be more than one week. H: No. I think can be done. I checked. It costs $ if you fly Friday and return Sunday; but $$ if Saturday and back Monday. No point if flying on Saturday and back Sunday, right? Me: I have to work Monday. And yes, no point flying Saturday and back Sunday. Do you mean me only or with the boys? H: Bring the boys over, of course with the boys. Friday flight is at 4 pm though. THat would mean S8 will have to miss school. Me: Yeah. H: So, what you think? Me; Err...mmm...I will check and get back to you.
I must have sounded kinda weird and funny and hesitant because when I got into the office, H texted me "If you don't wanna feel funny....u can take this trip as bringing the boys over to see the father. up to u." I didn't reply to this text. I thought of the various pros and cons, and decided that this is a trip that I had to make. So, I got online and booked the tickets for myself and my two boys. Then I got a call from H and he said "If you find that it's too rush, then perhaps wait till I come back from my trip to the States.." Then I interjected and said that I booked the tickets online already, and would email the details to him, to which he replied "I know the details. I am on my way to B for my golf game".
Not long later, I got a text from H "I've golf on Sat morning. You can take the boys to the mall. Leave the driver with you".
I forwarded our flight details via email to H. And got an almost instant reply. H: In car now going to B.... Me: Wow.... so terror?? First time I receive email from phone!!! Sorry, am very backward in the technology sense. Anyway, enjoy your golf game. p/s I am not gonna bring any money with me. H: Don't need a notebook anymore. I'll be playing golf on sat morning. Driver will take you to the mall. There's also a kids sports just outside the mall. The boys can also swim in the morning before you go shopping. Me: We know how to entertain ourselves. Not first time in Country X. Just roll out the Dosh can already. H: So...you flying over for a f**k...or bringing the boys to see the father?? Did you f**k urself last night?? Me: Errr...I didn’t f**k myself...I entertained myself!!!! H: stop doing that till you come over. will give you a nice deep f**k. Me: See if I can withhold not entertaining myself or not. If I can till then.... Then it better be GREAT!!!! I want to reach the heavens. H: Thought we r suppose to be on trial separation?? Some more wanna reach heaven!! H**NY Me: In that case, we better not have any hanky-panky. Don't worry, I will be able to abstain from you. I won't force myself on you! H: Sure or not?? What if i'm too h**ny??? Then can rite?? Me: Sure I can abstain. IF you are h**ny...that's your problem. H: Will jump on you then....
SO... what do you make of this? The positives are: 1) No Anger 2) He did think about the boys and I, and did make the effort to check the cost of the 3 tickets online. 3) Did ask us over for a visit, and will pay for the tickets. 4) Sounds much more like his old self.
Negatives.. 1) He takes this as a "trial separation" for us, whereas all the time, I thought he has just gone off for work. 2) He may have got OW a ticket to visit him before (Okay.. this is a BIG ASSumption...so I shall not ponder about it further...but just want to get it out somewhere)
