Yoyo, when I read your situation, I see real progress. You are detaching from H. He is reaching out for you more. So while you see no change, I see progress (even though it is baby steps)
bikini waxing at a salon to get ready for my holiday
Yoyo does it get easier? I had my first wax this week, and we decided just to get a normal one as it was my first time, and then next time Charlie Chaplin. But I have to admit while I like the result, am not looking fwd to the ouch factor
when I read your situation, I see real progress I hope you are right. I think I am soooo tied up with yoyo-ing that I cannot see anything. One thing I know is that H is not as angry as before. As for reaching out, I don't know about that. He hasn't called since yesterday afternoon. He did send me a text this morning to say that he is pretty excited for his stuff to be delivered, as he had his new stereo coming, and said that he'll call me later. Seriously, I doubt that he will really call. It's Saturday night...probably out gallavanting.
You are detaching from H. Not too sure if I am really detaching...It's just that I really have no control over H. I just do what I can over here. I guessed the whole saga of my yoyo-ing will start the next time H comes back for a visit. But meanwhile, not gonna dwell on it.
Yoyo does it get easier? Pain is still horrendous. But thank goodness, the duration seems shorter this time. Probably because the hairs are not so stubborn this time. LOL. Btw, what is the Charlie Chaplin?
Had to say so far, today has been quite good. Did go for my yoga and then my spa pedicure and manicure this morning. Had lunch with girlfriend, and then went for a back facial (yup, they cleanse, exfoliate, extract pimples, apply mask and stuff on your back) and my bikini waxing. Have to say that I am pleased with the results...
Well, tomorrow is another day.... Full Day at the Mall.. Yay!!!
Btw, what is the Charlie Chaplin? I will let you know in 2 weeks , but think it is like a brazilian, but they leave behind a thin strip like Charlie's moustache?
So you are all buffed and polished and ready for your holiday Hope you really get the chance to unwind and forget all of this for a while
Kismet...okay, let me know how your Charlie Chaplin looks like.
Journalling.. Sunday. H called when boys and I were browsing in a bookshop. Told him we were gonna watch "Sky High" and he said "Oh..yeah. S8 did say so the other day". Then I was about to end the call, H said "boys don't wanna talk to me?" So, did pass the phone to the boys. Later, in the evening, H called again but music was probably too loud, had a missed call. When I saw the missed call, I texted him " You called? Anything? Call you later. Waiting for the maid. She's late. Boys are getting impatient". Next thing I knew, H called on my mobile and said "Since you said that you all are impatient and waiting...so, I thought I'll call and chat with you...blah blah blah". So, we chatted (not really chatting) but H spoke to the boys abit. Then back to me and H said "call me when you are home, and settled. But not too late, okay? So, went home, tucked boys in bed. Got another text from H "Watching Batman Begins. Am so bored". And not long later, H called me on the home phone. We sort of chatted abit. H: Forgot to tell you, am flying to Country Y either tomorrow or Tuesday Am. Have a meeting there. Supposed to come back. But you said boys are going where? Me: Boys off during weekend with my parents. H: And you are off to Mauritius when? Me: Wednesday till Sunday. H: What airline? Me: Air Mauritius. H: But I will definitely be back on the 26th. Me: I thought you said this week, you'll be back for work? H: Yeah. Supposed to. But you won't be around. So, have to check with you to synchronize. But definitely be back on the 26th. Me: Err.. you know the money transfer for the apartment? Blah blah blah... I whined a bit. Yes, backslid on this part. *sigh* H: I'll see what I can do. Call you tomorrow or see how.
So, that was a backslid. I texted H after our phonecall. "Pls pls do the transfer by hook or by crook. If all else fails use Western Union. BTW, S8 other results for his exams 88 and 68 %. And good luck on your meeting". No reply. *sigh*
This morning...Monday, I am trying to LET GO and not dwell, but really needed him to do the transfer. So, sent him a very very short email just to remind him on the transfer. No nagging, no whining, no R stuff. All I said was "Just a reminder to do the transfers."
Okay, I am gonna make myself LET GO of this Issue and Incident now...and not dwell further after this POST.
YoYo - Good idea not to dwell it does you know good and you can't control anything except your own behaviour. So enjoy your trip and forget things at home until you get back. H has been showing all the good baby step signs so be happy with that. Glad to see you looked after you on the weekend....Good on you....KDU
Hi Yoyo, just thought I drop by and check on you. Things appear to be going well for you and your sitch. It sounds as though H is keeping in good contact with you. Just keep being patient and the results in the end will all be worth it.
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years
KDK - Thanks for dropping by. Will drop by over to your thread to see how you are doing.
Journalling.. Okay, Monday...after my short "reminder" email. H did call me after lunch. He was at the bank, and having some problems with the transfer. We spoke and agreed that he should try another bank. H then texted me to say that it will take some time, and if I could rope in my sister to help. I replied and said OK, blah blah blah. Later, H IMed me and asked me for some banking details before I go off for my holiday. Blah blah blah on all these $$ and transfer stuff. Then he IMed. H: When are you going? (Yes, he asked me this many many times already) Me: Wed till Sunday. H: WOw...so long. Me: Not that long...2 days on the plane...only 3 nights at the resort. H: Still wed till Sunday. FYI I missed you too. Me: Miss me? ...in what way? If I may ask. H: Not the F*** and S*** bit Me: Why the censorship? H: Not so nice. Miss you and the boys. Me:...You are shy? H: Got to go. Bye Me: Bye H: Call the boys later.
Later, I texted him...I know I shouldn't have, but did. Me: S5 said that I am going on holiday with my boyfriend, but changed his mind later and said CANNOT. No reply from H. Sent another text (I know..I know...sounds like pursuing..but felt that I needed to clarify) Me: Btw, I am NOT taunting you. Just sharing the funny stuff our sons cook up. This time, H did reply... H: I know you are not. Call you later.
Later that night, before bed...I texted H again. Me: Do you want to talk to boys? If yes, I'll call you. H: Ok. Call me now...
So, I called him and let the boys speak to him. WHen the phone was passed back to me, just said bye and ended the call. Seems Monday has a lot of texts, IMs and phone calls. I think it wil be a lull for awhile... Let's see what happens...will be off to my holiday in the sun tomorrow....YIPPEEEEEEE...
Yes...I will put all my worries and problems and all and put it in a box and store it away while I am on holiday....
A little baby step today.... H arrived in Country Y, called me for a short chat. Told me that he bumped into a friend. Didn't talk long as he had another call. Let's see if I can a call tonight to wish me a wonderful time in Mauritius from H. Okay...won't expect. But would be nice....
, but think it is like a brazilian, but they leave behind a thin strip like Charlie's moustache?