Anna, Kismet and KDU - Looks like I am getting a whacking from my fellow DBers this round. I agree that I am on a confrontational streak Seriously, I am really really sick of all these lies and empty promises. I would be fine, if he keeps things cordial and friendly minus all these empty promises. If he would have told me straight that YES, he is leaving me for OW etc etc, and can we please be friendly blah blah blah, I would still be able to compose myself. BUT..to tell me "please don't worry, I will put things right" and then go and drive OW's car to bring my kids around...THAT I just cannot tolerate! It is like he is really messing up with my feelings, and I really cannot cannot tolerate that kind of nonsense. I know that I have thrown DBING principles out the window, but lately, I feel that I am quite invincible that I shouldn't take this crap from H. It may backfire on me, and I may have to pay for it later for all these blunders...but I think it will take a few days to go back to my normal DBING self.
Journalling... Okay...after my numerous "rubbish" texts yesterday, got a text from H at about 4 pm. All he texted was "Tried calling but went to voice mail. Will try again later. Trying to rush back for the big match". Well, he didn't try calling again. Sent him an email to try to get him to clarify all the practical stuff, i.e. $$, sale of car, banking account for transfers, credit cards, etc etc.
Today (Monday), H called my mobile 3 times. I missed them because I was at a meeting. Finally, I sent him an email informing him that I was in a meeting. After the meeting, I checked my email. H replied, but all he said was "Will sort out everything when I come back the following week. Missing you and the boys". I didn't reply. H called at about 7.30 pm. Was having dinner at my parents' place so didn't chat long. He was the airport trying to catch a plane. Asked me some stuff and I told him that I really don't want to listen anymore. H said he'll call me at home later and ended the call. Some texts between H and I: First text from H: Told you to let it be for a few months. I'm already missing all of you already. Hope things will be better between us in a month or two...probably after the Muslim holidays Second text from H: FYI...I'm in flight XYZ. Depart 1940 Arrives 2240. Me: What's with the flight details? In case of disaster and I am to claim insurance? Anyway, like I said, do what you want. Just spare me the empty promises. And pls keep your skank away from my kids. Appreciate you reply to my email. H:Yes...just in case. Firstly, I never even thought having the boys meet her. Secondly, I never made any promises to anyone. Like I said, I miss u n the boys. Up to you to believe or not. Boarding soon... Me: Telling me not to worry is an empty promise. Telling me that you are sending the movers-in is an empty promise. I feel that you are so wishy-washy that at the end, it will be me who has to decide for you. If it makes you feel better, she can have you.
Next thing was H called me on my mobile. We had a chat... asked me how was my weekend, went on to talk about a pool table that he wants to fit into the rented home, blah blah blah..also, about where the new home would be..close to the international school... H: Can't we chat like this? Me: I am not your friend. H: Who says you are my friend (with a smile) Me: I want to start burning the letters (letters H wrote waaay back when we were courting 17 years ago) H: Why? Makes you feel better? Me: Yeah...want to burn one a week. H: How about me writing you letters? Me: That will be the day. You, writing letters? Can't even reply my email. H: I will reply the email. And why can't I write letters? Me: You? Get a piece of paper, write, and put a stamp on it and take it to the post office? You won't H: WHy not? I did it last time Me: That was last time. You are not the same person. H: I won't sent email cause you will just click DELETE. Me: I am tired. Aren't you tired? I don't think that I can wait till CNY...figured that if I burn one letter a week, by that time.. H: How about after the Muslim holidays? Me: Well, after I come back from Phuket then H: When are you going? Me: November H: What's happening then? Just three of you? Me: School holidays and yes, just the 3 of us. H: Just asking...for the sake of asking..before you say that I am giving empty promises.. What is elementary? Would S8 be in elementary? The apt that I am getting is near the International Elementary School...blah blah blah H then had to end the call as he was boarding a flight and said that he will text me on arrival.
Well, guessed my "tantrums" or "confrontational episode" didn't scare him off...instead he was kinda flirty, chatty and friendly.
that I shouldn't take this crap from H. It may backfire on me, and I may have to pay for it later for all these blunders...but I think it will take a few days to go back to my normal DBING self. 
