Well, the rock star career my have to wait, things have gotten pretty heavy the last day or so.
W called yesterday afternoon and talked about kids’ school stuff for a while and then, out of the blue said, “We need to talk about a settlement.” I responded that I thought I would be hearing from her attorney but she said she would rather do most of it herself to save money. Well to cut to the chase her proposal was absurd, and my non-DB reaction was, “that ain't gonna happen.”
She was quite upset as her apartment lease expires in November and she cannot renew. Therefore she must find a new place and she thinks that we can have this settled and her in a new place within two months?
Some words were exchanged but I really maintained my composure. I did ask, “Are you 100% sure you want to divorce me?” She responded, “No, but I need to find a new place to live.”
We spoke a couple other times during the evening and at one point I said that I believed our marriage was still savable. I made a couple good points at which she was completely silent for a good amount of time. Thinking, right?
I mentioned the Om to which she said, “You’re putting too much into him. He doesn’t mean that much. Why would I invest in someone that lives 100 miles away and I can only see once a month.” I also mentioned her drinking to which she denied wholeheartedly. (It ain’t just a river in Egypt.)
Today she emailed me that she guesses we cannot even talk anymore. I responded by saying that I actually thought we did o.k. last night considering the emotional intensity of the issues. I have to keep reminding myself that this is just a phase and/or a mood swing. After all, it was just two weeks ago that we had that great date.
Now, as for my letter. I have prepared a counter offer for when I get hers in writing. My offer though is asking her to work on our marriage. I was planning on doing something in December but my hand is being force earlier. I had my C read it and she made some suggestions on wording and such.
(Had to take a little break. D6 just came in crying. Does a lot of that lately, Hmm, wonder why?)
Anyway, the letter will go out if she sends me her offer. If she refuses my counter-offer, then I am done. (As an aside, if we are done, my first call is to the Om whom I have never met or spoken with and will tell him what a SOB I think he is! Will it do my sitch any good? No, but will allow me to verbalize what I have held inside for months.)
