I think you are right - I reckon she's confused because you guys have been having such a good time and she doesn't know what that means in terms of the decisions she has made.
Keep doing what you are doing WAWF. You are chipping the whole thing down piece by piece and I really believe you will get there.
One day at a time. Zero expectations. Count the babysteps.
Take it easy.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.