Quote: After I did my dadly duty comforting and holding her, I suggested that she tell that to her mom next time.
Good job. It's so hard, but they've got to hear this sh*t (that we hear every day). Avery won't tell H this stuff, so he thinks that it doesn't exist. It's more that he's blown her trust so completely that she doesn't want to confide in him. Likely it's the same with your daughter. She can tell you because you have proven yourself worthy of hearing.
I felt a HUGE "grrr" reading your post. Your wife is missing out on a time when they change so fast. Grrr...