You know that before the bomb dropped (wife was getting the bombbay doors open for a min of 6 months), she used to bring up the Bruce and Demi thing...alot. She would use it in hypotheticals (sp). I think the friendship thing in the Bruce and Demi publilicy gig has hurt the ol DB crew. My W has said many times before and after the bomb...we will be friends because look at Bruce and Demi.
Jeeezzzzz. Are we going to be friends after the D honeyyyyyyyy. NO. Did I say NO...I think I said NO. This isn't the movies and I'm not Bruce....I have a full head of hair and I'm taller. You want more friends...go to match.com and see how many friends you can get to buy you dinners knowing full well the date is just for a free dinner. Man...have I lost it or what...who's post is this?
Quote: You know that before the bomb dropped (wife was getting the bombbay doors open for a min of 6 months), she used to bring up the Bruce and Demi thing...alot. She would use it in hypotheticals (sp). I think the friendship thing in the Bruce and Demi publilicy gig has hurt the ol DB crew.
Tambo, I was thinking about this not long ago. In retrospect, I have been able to look back at the last 10-12 months and find that there were some major clues that something was inevitable. I just didn't realize at the time, or I chose to ignore them (I haven't figured out which yet). Anyway, one of the clues was the way WAW used to describe her boss' family (the boss' 1/2 brother is the OM btw) and how during the holidays the WHOLE FAMILY (ex-wives etc) all get together and act like one big happy family. She thought that was neat. I didn't realize at the time that she wanted to BECOME a PART of that family! Well, of course she would...they are millionaires (literally). I'm ranting now sorry...rant over.
Bottom line, the clues are normally there. She would talk about their family all the time. She learned this NOT from her boss, but from the OM (long before he was actually the OM, he was actually OMiM [other man in making] LOL) and she would also talk about the OM constantly. I even made the comment once or twice about the OM sounding like her boyfriend (months before we separated). Little did I know...
Bryan
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
WB, I think when they divorced they said they were going to remain good friends. I however am not a People Magazine reader, so if I'm wrong gang, please correct me.
Quote: Now, at the risk of sounding like a broken record, it still concerns me re her comments about a wonderful relationship AFTER the divorce.
Let it go sweetheart. She said it in one conversation - weeks ago. Sounds like she's trying to forget she ever said it. Act as if you never heard it. Act as if you are using her enthusiasm for spending time with you as time to reconnect and attract her back to you. You are going great. Keep it up. Don't let little niggling negatives overshadow the terrific progress you are making here.
Take care
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
She has actually said it more than once, but that's o.k. I am trying to maintain the belief that even if she is seeing me in order to propulgate this fantasy of hers, it shouldn't matter as long as, like you said, I have the opportunity to keep attracting her.
Thanks for the words of encouragement. PLEASE keep them coming.
Yeah - we are going to have to ask Dodger to find out what happens when this "breakthrough" happens and what his MFTs experience is in handling it successfully.
Fantastic though that you guys are all going out to dinner on a Saturday night. Great opportunity to really show her what she'll be missing if she does decide to go solo. There will be no Saturday night dinners with the family if you are D. Even if she has a fantasy about being friends after a D, she knows in her heart that it won't be possible to maintain that level of family intimacy.
DB your butt off - enjoy dinner. Take care
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
So as had been planned, W met me at church with the kids as S8 was going to do scout stuff right after. In a DB twist of good fate, there was a woman sitting a few pews behind us that sang SOO BAD that it gave me a great opportunity to totally crack W up and made her laugh so hard she almost had to leave.
4 of us then went out to dinner afterward and I made it a point to listen intently, hanging on every word she said. We did make plans to see the movie, just the two of us, Tuesday. Overall, a very good DBing night.
Oh, forgot one negative thing to the evening. I brought both kids home and D6 started crying. When I asked what was wrong, she said that she didn't like this going back and forth from W's apt to the house. After I did my dadly duty comforting and holding her, I suggested that she tell that to her mom next time.
Normally W would have the kids this weekend but she asked me to take them last night so she could go to an out of town office and get some work done. Of course I said yes.
Just found out she is at OMs instead, whose house is about 2 1/2 hours away from the other office. Sacraficing time with her own children, lying through her teeth to me. Who the hell is this?
