I'm right there with you WCB. That's exactly how I feel about my possible post D relationship with W. To each his own though.
WAWF, I can relate to your W's comment about her post D wishes. Way back (about a year ago) my W said some wacky stuff about wishing that polygamy was legal, then she could have both men she wanted. She was less than half joking at the time. Now I see it was obvious that she was getting some of her needs fulfilled by me and the rest by OM. This is probably very similar to how your W is feeling right now. She really has no major complaints about you, but she's in love with him right now so that's who she should be M to (in her mind).
How friendly you are with W if there should be a D is up to you. In a way you are lucky. You found DB very early on in your sitch. You've burnt very few bridges with W. You can pick and choose which ones you want to burn (none or maybe all of them). It took me 8 months to find DB so I don't have that luxury and I'm a little envious.
