NYS, isn't it amazing how our Ws can fall in love with these "Psychopaths"?
Or maybe they're mere "sociopaths"...
So, if the OM, in my case, puts his emotional needs above that of my WAW's wish to work on the marriage, he identifies himself as an emotional needy person. The OP could also be a "rescuer" type romantically saving the WAS from her dire straits, or whatever, in other words my point is, bottom line, there's some sort of emotional screw up in the OP. The WAS is needy too, right, most often needing that boost of "feel good" that comes from the OP? (I should write that it's OK to have normal needs, it's the outworking of meeting those needs that's in question here) Now, when you reason that emotionally needy people often attract and are attracted to other emotional needy people, this sort of infatuation between a WAS and OP starts to make sense. Not good sense, but sense nonetheless.
