Unfaithful Wife-II

[LBHofWAW]

Ok...I have to chime in on the other person references here, and I have several things to say:
1) first & foremost, I agree with those that say that anyone who would fool around with a married person is not a real man or real woman
2) remember, please, that our spouses were the ones that strayed. They made the choice to fool around. The bottom line is that our spouses made the choice, not the other person.
3) you are focusing too much on the other person, which in turn gives them more power than they deserve
4) the other person is a symptom of the problem....NOT the problem
5) this last post is from a spiritual angle - if you are a Christian, try praying for the other person. They need it, just like your spouse. They are messed up, too. Remember, they made a choice to mess around with someone who was supposed to be off limits.

Kind of a side note on the other person...you won't completely stop thinking about them - thoughts will always pop up. In my sitch, his name is Matt. He has dirty blonde hair (light brown), and a big, toothy smile...I never put 2+2 together before this morning...but he bears a slight resemblance to Matt Damon (the actor), who she loves. While this hurts a little - I had to laugh when I made the connection. Try to make everything as little a problem as possible. The more angry and/or focused you are on the other person - the more bitterness you will harbor and the less you can improve you. Anyway, I'll get off of my soapbox now...