You're smokin'. Fair dinkum - this is progress. YOu have evidence that she is having doubts (crying) and you are doing some serious reconnecting. These are not baby steps, they are little athletics steps.
If you really want to push it, let it slip that you went to the show with a woman. Watch her reaction then.
Quote: I just wish she had never said that BS about being such wonderful friends after D goes through; I think I would feel better.
What's our DB creed? Believe half of what you see and nothing of what they say ... it's true in this case. She is very confused and you, my friend, have to play the next part very carefully ... read some stuff on how to respond when it seems the last resort is working eg
Quote: Hi there! When doing the LR, and your spouse sparks some interest, the rule of thumb is NOT to be overly responsive. Michele Weiner Davis says: --Be loving in return, but NOT overly excited or enthusiastic. --Accept some invitations to spend time together, but not all. --Do not ask questions about your future together. --Be vague when asked questions about the changes in you. --Continue to be upbeat. --Do not say, "I love you." --Resist getting into conversations about your marriage. --Beat your spouse to the punch when it comes time to leave an activity.
You need to continue to stay cool until you're absolutely certain that your spouse wants you back. You may get overly excited with your spouse's sudden interest in you. However, don't show it. Continue the LR, and stop pursuing behaviors. If you don't, it will backfire.
Good luck. /Tia
Stay strong you are doing great.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
