Thanks for the reply, Zilla. I understand what you're saying, what I don't know is to take the cake away. H and I have so much going on together with our activities/events/ranch/meetings that I don't know how to squeeze in anything more to do that doesn't include him. I don't whine and cry about OW anymore, but do have an occassional blow up(last one in July, before that was last December when I told H if he wanted two women in his life I would not be one of them, he left for 12 hours. It was all very calm, but it seems like an idle threat). What does amaze me is that while I am busy and don't have time to sqeeze more into my life, H has time for another woman in his life. Is that priorities? I have told him that if he moves out that I do not want him driving in and out as he pleases to help with chores, ride/train horses, etc. If he leaves he should stay gone. So he's stayed put, sleeps on the couch. And if he does leave I can't handle the financial load on my own. I've thought about leaving and have looked, but so far have been unable to find a place that will even allow my dog say nothing about horses. I don't think H can afford our place without my income either. So, I feel stuck, I don't know how to take his cake away. All I can come up with is to make his cake more tempting and appetizing that he wants to come in the door and get it. But so far it hasn't worked, even though I've been trying to keep the cake fresh. This cake has been in the pan a long time already. How do I get him to bite?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
