WCW - not sure if Zuki will get here today, but I will paraphrase a conversation we had last night about what his "cake" was. He says it was being involved in my life. So, while I was complaing and bitching about his cheating on me, whining and crying pushed him away. It made me less attractive. Then, when I went out and got a life without him, he suddenly felt left out and hurt.
It's that old analogy I used to like to post. If your spouse is in the doorway and you are there in the room doing something, they will watch you but not come in. However, as soon as you move out of their sight, they have to step in through the doorway to find out where you are and what you are doing without them.
