What was your cake, Zuki? and how did Zilla take it away? I suppose there comes a time when finances become unimportant compared to mental health and the anguish of dealing with a spouse who doesn't want you anymore. But short of selling assets or filing bankruptcy, it takes both of us to keep the finances floating, and that's just barely. So when you can barely afford to buy the cake, how do you take it away?
Also, I guess I am not very gracious. I am trying to be loving and considerate and give him the time he needs to come back to our marriage, but if the day comes that H really does pack and move out and doesn't come back, I am done being the passive person who says 'whatever makes you happy'. It's all over then, I don't have to make him happy anymore, he picked someone else to do that. In fact, after two years of what I have been dealing with there are already many days that I am having a harder and harder time giving him time and space. I want some resolution, something from H to indicate a definite try instead of me just trying to pick out pieces of what might be signs. Sometimes I think he can sense how close I am to being done with the wait. Any thoughts? Did you have any ideas of what Zilla was thinking before you knew she knew?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
