yes I've been using DB techniques bomb drop in oct 2002 i did all the usual & found DB in late nov i think
thru DBing I think is the reason why byron's still not yet filed I've been here almost 3 yrs now
figure that byron's on the 5-7 yr plan for MLC since his mom mary who he lives with allows for his behavior & enables byron to stay in alien mode
byron has some childhood issues & low self esteem which he won;t deal with in jan he turns 40 & he's in denial about his disease sarcoidosis & the diabetes which has resulted from his drinking
so he will be in MLC until he comes to face what ever it is that's keeping him in the tunnel from his childhood in the meantime i try to give him the space he needs but make sure that when it comes to the bills i will not allow him to tell the lies which his mom will listen to i simply calmly state the facts & that he's got to figure out how to deal with it
180's for me both in being calm & quiet about the bills or things which need to be done & for allowing him to have to figure out how to get us out of the mess he's made in the past I always had to get us out of the finacial messes since the car accident in sept 97 i've been unable to work a regular job so that prevents me from being a steady spare source of income during the "harder" times in the past this has prevented some of the worst from happening finacially
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They speak of MLCers feeling "Entitled" did you find this to be the case?
Aslo did you sometimes pick fights just to make a "reason" for you to have bad feelings about Zilla to help "justify" what you were doing?
No, I didn't feel "entitled" or pick fights with Zilla. I think I "justified" it by how I thought I felt about the OW and Zilla at the time. Are you using the DB techniques? Just curious.
