I'm not familiar w/the divorce process, I wish I didn't have to become familiar with it.
For those who don't know -- my sitch in summary
H moved out in Nov. 2004. He had been having an EA for about 6 months. After moving out the EA progressed to a PA. I think the physical part of it has pretty much died out but the emotional part of it continues. I'm tired and I don't want to do this anymore. I still love him very much and I really don't want a divorce. The ironic part is he tells me he doesn't want a divorce either. But he can't seem to let go of the OW. Thus the reason I'm pursueing legal action. I can't change him, I can't make him end it w/her, all I can do is remove myself from the situation. Unfortunately I think it is going to take something as drastic as this for H to stop running from his issues (as he does by drowning himself in work) and face the fact he can't have both of us. (In his little fantasy world he would love to have both OW and me).
What I'm looking for from all of you is your opinions as to the pros/cons of each -- lawyer vs mediator. Both H and I are all for splitting everything fairly, I want nothing from him, we do not have any children and my income potential and his income potential are pretty much even. The only non-negotiable item is my dog -- he goes with me regardless. And the dog most likely won't be an issue as H works 24 hour shifts.
I'm leaning towards a mediator but would like to hear opinions before making a decision.
