I have been thinking this morning, after H's comments, that I am pretty much ready to not hear anymore about monster. Especially her sexual excapades. She really disgusts me. I am real close to being done!!!! I am thinking I may not "say" that I don't want him to tell me, but just walk away when he starts into parts I don't want to listen about.
For a while, there isnt a thing that can be done about the kids being at home, I am hoping it will be short-term though. And I do plan to take advantage of the built-in baby sitter!
Hi dfb...you are exactly right, I was thinking myself I don't want to be like monster at all. Trying something different for fun sexually is one thing, being like that low-class tramp is another. She uses sex as her entrapment. there is nothing mutual or loving about it. She's what gives sex a bad name!!!!
I hope his interest fades, soon, obviously it's still there.
I'm not sure H visited porn sites. I believe what happened is she sent him "live" action movies of herself doing....whatever...the old Linda Lovelace action, I guess. I'm pretty sure that's a lot of it. maybe they got into it together, makes me cringe to think of it.
I was thinking though that at least I've figured out part of the attraction; the biggest part, I believe.
Ellie, My thoughts exactly on all counts!!!! I sure hope it fades, I am getting pretty sick of it.....
Quote: - I think the key to getting through this is to A) continue to work on 180s and personal growth, be that fun and interesting partner, keep to your workouts and diet, and B) paradoxically, start thinking about putting yourself in a position where you would be in good shape even if he left.
This is exactly what I've been thinking today....in other words, still gotta be focused on the morphing efforts. Finances are going to take a while to get straightened out, it's 2 steps forward, one back with them also. sigh.
The first thing you need to do is to take care of yourself. Get nearly daily, good exercise - even just a half hour of brisk walking is wonderful for the body and soul. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, they will help you feel a lot healthier. Don't be who you aren't for H. You need to be yourself. Volunteer for something you are interested in.
I used to think it was selfish, but you really need to put YOU first. Because once you do that, you'll be able to take care of other things (and your family) better. And personally, I'd rather see you both take fast-food jobs then see monster every day. But you are better than her, so make sure that you carry that thought when you see her.
