ummmm, Ellie, can I say "duh" loudly and often?????
I read this again this evening and it hit me...yes, DUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHH. he does respond to the attention. soaks it up. In an effort to not pursue hotly, I've held back on emailing, waiting for him to "chase" me, and sometimes waiting quite a while before I responded. So, now for a 180, I'm thinking I WILL be "initiator"...as JJ said, train his brain to think Deb = .
Something else I've been toying with is writing him a really "hot and nasty" lustful letter. frankly, I don't even know how to do this, but I've read some of YoYo's phone convos w/her H and they amaze me. It would be totally out of character, and I bet surprise the heck out of H.
I think it would be safe to try, in that I think he's out of the "it's insulting that you think all I think about is sex" stage. sheesh, that's been a year and 1/2 ago, and I still remember those fits and temper tantrums.
I sure am hoping the kids can find jobs before they move back and get a place. it will not help us one bit, H even commented a couple weeks ago that we were just getting things put back together and this would sure make it more difficult. it's hard not to be scared about that.
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