I've said this before, she needs to be a DBing coach officially, and paid too!
DEB -
You have really worked hard to get where you are today, don't throw it away with hasty (re)actions. I think Ellie's advice is spot on, at least until you can talk calmly with your H about boundaries, no contact, and final letters to Monster etc.
Remember the rule, don't react straight away, give it at least twenty four hours, things look different cold...
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
