yesterday when I was grousing to H about where monster parked, I got these 2 emails from him:

"Well monster may have parked by me, but she is so avoiding me in the halls, etc. In fact I saw her in the hallway once, I turned and went the other way and so did she. She isn’t accidentally showing up at my lunch time or coming back into this section of the building. I told her I wanted no contact and so far she has really honored that, no e-mails, nothing. I love you, quit stressing!!! Your D
and:
You just need to get hot stuff mounted in the window. I suppose I parked actually in her area today. I just hate being half a mile away over in the other lot. I guess I could go back to parking there so this doesn’t come up again. I really don’t think she is in the in the face mode. She really has done her best to interact only when absolutely needed and we always CC MAC in our e-mails so there is a third party always and nothing just between us and nothing but business and that is rare. You may not get it, but she is way through with me, off to greener pastures. Well, I got to go! Later D

So, I guess I really do need to work at accepting it at face value and letting it go, it was just so hard yesterday on the "Bomb Day" anniversary. I believe H is doing all he knows right now to be reassuring.

I was thinking about JJ's post about doing something loving, so when I got off work, I rushed like mad to the store and got some "quick to fix" stuff that I know H likes, ran home, fed animals, fixed supper, and made a center piece with silk flowers and candles for the table, set it nicely, and had it all ready when H got home. He was about 20 minutes late, in a foul mood from work, so we talked and talked, and by the time we ate things were kinda dried up;
When we got into bed, H apologized for being so grumpy and worked up, and said "thanks for the supper, that was sweet". I've had a couple of emails w/ILY in them today.
those are such lifesavers for me. I cant believe how much they mean.
Gotta run, need to post something else, I will try to stop back and do that later this evening.




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