Thanks dfb and everybody....I've been so busy i havent even had time to post, but wanted to take a minute to update.

Things are going very well w/H, but I still see tidbits of mlc popping up, which worry me sometimes, but I try to just focus on doing what I know needs to be done and works and keeping on making things so GREAT that he couldnt want to be anywhere else. trying to anyway !

the little yorkie is great...H loves him like a baby, this is so weird, because he has always had disdain for "yapper" dogs, liked hunting dogs, and the last few years has ranted and raved that we have TOO DAMN MANY ANIMALS. But the yorkie obviously adoped H long ago when he first met him at the office, and the feeling is mutual. the dog literally "dances" with excitement when h comes in the door. I told him "no" once, and he ran and jumped into H's lap, it was so funny. The pup does the funniest thing, when he wants you to pet him or rub his ears, he will actually stand on his hind legs and rub his face and ears with his front paws.

Last Saturday, H went on a 1/2 day canoe trip with his dad, S, and 2 nephews. This used to be a regular event, but H has refused, sullenly, to do it for the last 3 or 4 years. this year, he was pleasant and actually did it...I helped haul canoes, and H thanked me as they finished unloading for my help, and actually gave me a NICE passionate kiss right there in front of God, his dad, and every body.

When they got back, H took his dad downstairs to show him his new weights, and his dad commented that he needed to be careful but to do it now because "you're 50 now"...I wanted to tape his mouth shut. later that day, I was naughty and said "I thought about telling your dad you may be 50 but you can like a kid"...and H had such a look of "naughty boy" delight...still teenagerish.

He's kind of been having another "sexathon" this week, initiated ml last Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday. ??????????? after about 2 weeks of not much???????? weird. Friday and Saturday, he had trouble "finishing"....Saturday and Sunday I had another "duh" moment and figured out that there are some things I can do to effect that....

yesterday, I took vacation and Wednesday night S and I and H went out of town and stayed at a hotel we've used to stay at a lot years ago while h attended a professional continuing ed conference. H asked us to go....in the night, H initiated ml again, with no problems.....
He mentioned several times how nice it was to have us with him, we were by the pool when he had a break and he came and spent it talking with us (wouldnt have had too, we had no idea of his schedule, and were paying no attention)...We had a table reserved for his lunch break and had arranged for the food to be delivered when he walked in, and he was thrilled with that...after we ate, we sat by the pool and chatted for the rest of his break...again, he wouldnt have had to do that.

He mentioned telling a person at the conference that he'd been married 26 years, and some of the stuff we've done in our life together.

He is talking about coaching me in workouts....something else i never thought he'd do...ever...so that will be nice if we get that going. It'll help me with losing weight and getting in shape.

Oh, along that line...monday night he asked if I wanted to walk with him, i said sure, and he asked S....we all three went, and H was actually excited, talking about "a family walk"...I thanked him several times for the invite and said how much i enjoyed it, as did S, and he agreed, said we'd need to do it more often.

gotta go, I hope to catch up with some of you all next week. Hopefully things will continue on an even keel this weekend.

been around awhile!