Last night I got home a little after 8...H was watching TV when I came into the house, he got up, came into the kitchen where I'd "landed" and started "chatting", we wound up just standing in the kitchen and talking for 2 hours!
H was actually happy and excited last night. He wants to have a canoe trip/cookout with his coworkers in the out of town office, AND he wants to host a christmas party for that group! wow. this is a change of attitude.
He mentioned wishing he had a fire place in his office...I pursued that, he snickered..."well, I can't put one in there"...I told him no, but you could have an electric heater, and they make them that look just like a fireplace. Showed him a pic of one, and he started getting so excited, saying how cool it would be and he knew exactly where to put one, and that it would be such a good thing for counseling sessions with some clients, that it would be so relaxing to just pull up chairs and talk by the fire instead of in such a formal setting, that he thought kids would benefit as well as adults. So, that will be a project now....I wish I could find one as nice as what I'm thinking of for a little less $.
Then H said I needed to come over and help him arrange his office, said "you've never even seen my office, have you?" told him, nope, I havent....that's always been a point of sadness, i know monster's been there. one of my other "unwritten" goals has been to get to go to his office....anyway, he commented that we'll have to go over and rearrange it some weekend, and how neat and fun that would be!!!!!! Told him I'd love to...
Then he told me that he'd gotten our family pics hung up, and they look great, even the female co-worker told him how nice they were. Said he's still trying to find the right spot for the collage D made for him, but he's looking! after 5 years.
He woke me up about 2 in the morning to ML, then had trouble finishing...not sure what to think of that, hopefully being tired and 1/2 asleep? I remember him commenting afterwards though something about having put my picture up in his office....thought that was kind of odd, but just said "thanks, that does mean a lot"...
I don't know, seems like progress, but again I still have to work so hard on being patient and not pushing.
It would be so nice for him to have his office more pleasant though, I'm thinking that's a "gift" and "AOS" I could give him, now that it seems like he'll let me!
