thanks Snodderly, I know you are right about not pushing, something tells me "not quite yet" and so I hold back and try to be patient and "sit on my hands"....
I want him to really get into getting some things straightend up at home, yard work painting, etc, but I dont' make an issue or even bring it up, I just do what I can, and tell him how much I appreciate what he does do and how nice it looks. Sometimes he mentions all the stuff he did at monsters house, and it's hard not to be irked...Geez, he was down there working his tail off and our place needs so much "touching up" done. when he mentions it, I just say something like "you must have been really tired from working so hard" and let it go.
I want to go to marriage encounter....I havent said a word.just read the notices about it in the church bulletin in front of him. I know he read/noticed them from his comment about our marriage having an "awakening"....
I want to go visit our daughter....3 states away...we've never visited her. at one time way back I mentioned it, he was grumpy about it, so I dropped it and havent brought it up again.
I want us to make a point of scheduling some weekends away for ourselves, but I havent said a word about it...he has mentioned going to an historical hotel we spent an anniversary at years ago, he commented it would be nice, and I did say it would be and I would really like to do that sometime....then let it drop.
I want to have a regular 'date night", but early in the summer right after the "breakup" I pushed a teeny bit and got a lot of resistance, so I dropped it. havent brought it up since, but it would sure be nice to get out of the house together! it is still a challenge to get him to leave the house...but I just let him be. I did get an email from him that the coworkers from out of town are wanting to go canoeing and saying that WE should check our calendars to find a time when WE can do that ....I emailed back that it sounded like fun and the weather was great now for it....so we shall see.
I don't know if you read what I posted on the mlc thread about the little dog or not, but H talked and talked about it last night, talked himself into it and talked himself out of it. and then did it all over again several times. I told him it was up to him, that I would be ok with whatever he decided (secretly hoping he'd get it)...well, this morning before he left for work, as he started down the stairs, he asked again what I thought. i reiterated it was up to him, and he said if it wasnt for the money he wouldnt even hesitate. I told him if that was all it was, then he should get it, because I knew he'd always liked him. Then, get this---I swear--he skipped down the last couple of steps like a little kid, said "OK THANKS!" and SOUNDED like a little kid. I had an 8 o'clock committee meeting with the little dogs current owner, who said "I hear you're taking my baby"...so h had caught her 1st thing when he got to work to tell her... Is this significant that he is so attached to this tiny dog? H seems so excited about it. just kind of out of character for him. Although he keeps telling me how neat and smart he is, like a tiny little live teddy bear.
By the way, anybody have any experience with yorkies? We've always had hunting and herding dogs --and strays people dumped.
