Deb, Now is not the time to push for things. Listen to your instincts to wait. All things will be revealed to you when the time is right. If you push too hard right now, he will go right back into the hole and will not stick his head out again for a while. You need for him to continue to moving forward, not backward. Allow him more time and space for now.
Deb, this is the one place in the crisis that I caution people many times, to be patient, don't push and don't try to rush him along. I've seen so many people get to this stage and screw it up royally and end up losing a great deal of time, energy and yes, some even go for the divorce after this. Please listen to what your instincts are telling you. I would like to suggest that you read the threads by DebM (in the mlc forum). She was right where you are today and I posted and emailed her off the board and she managed to get through this stage and her life, marriage, etc. are now in tact. The same is happening w/ What's Next on the mlc forum.
The only saying "a watched pot never boils" applies here. Patience and faith are what you need to dig a bit deeper for at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
