Hi Being Me! I'm with you, I was struck by how similar the WAS's all are when I first came to the bb, and I never cease to this day to be amazed. It is like they are all reading from the same script. Just incredible. But I have to laugh, they all are convinced that their affair is SO SPECIAL!!!!! I told my H once that he would be shocked if he knew how same-ole, same-ole he sounded. sheeeeesh....
Quote: although I have a lot of trust issues still to deal with, and I think some anger, especially for the OW which I know is not good for me, and I should let it go. How have you dealt with that?
I still find myself dealing with all of those issues as well, although as H seems to truely have moved away from the A and has become so much more loving towards me, I am finding the trust easier and the anger to be less.
I'm not sure how well I deal with the anger, because I know there is some still beneath the surface. There was a time when I would have been tempted to physically vent my anger on the ow....I still feel very resentful when I think of all she put our family through....pure hell....and of all she stole from us....H's time and attention, our D's wedding in a very real sense, 5 vacations (only 1 she actually went with H on, but his mind was so much on her on the other 4 that he may as well have not been there) not to mention all the effort he put into "her"....attention to her D that S was longing for and not getting from his Dad, and on and on. So, yes, there's a lot of resentment and anger there under the surface, although it is much less than it used to be.... I find that not focusing on it helps me....focusing on the "good stuff" and what I am aiming for, both personally and R wise, helps a lot...I guess it's that "what you focus on expands" rule that's mentioned so much here.
Another thing that helps is reminding myself of what a pathetic excuse for a human being she is. she truely is....I would never ever want to be like her. I'm sure not all op's are scum, but this one is. She is sick. beyond sick. the only reason she's not in prison is she hasnt been caught...too slick so far. I don't know, I guess "considering the source" helps. Plus I take naughty gleeful satisfaction in knowing that she threw everything she had and more at H for 2 1/2 years, and in the end all it did was send him running home and turn him into a much more appreciative H.
