Also this past weekend: H suggested we should make plans to do christmas at "our" vacation spot. S and I readily agreed that sounded fun...I was thinking this was good, in that H was seeming to be working towards "reclaiming" "our territory" ( as talked about in Not Just Friends )He mentioned having D and SIL join us....I pointed out that they might not be able to....and he kind of back tracked then, with "we just as well stay here if they can't come"...I asked "why" and he said the 3 of us would just be out there and lonesome....that "the kids" are always so excited about it, it makes it fun.....I told him I'd be excited, it would be very different, and he kind of hemmed and hawed around that it wouldnt be the same, but he'd do whatever S and I wanted to...I let it drop, but my guess is that maybe it's still a "tender" spot from ow days.
there was also a casual discussion of ow....H said the "poor new sucker" is going to get taken for a ride financially is his guess, that monster was always wanting him to take her shopping and buy stuff for her house...got my kinda fired up...I got to thinking about that, and asked H...what were you supposed to take her shopping for? just you buy whatever she saw that she wanted??? H said yes, he guessed so....I asked "what for the house?" he said furniture...I said "let me guess, a sofa?" and he said "yes"....I told him that still gets under my skin, that we could use a new sofa and he hasnt bought one for home, and he's never in all these years taken me shopping for whatever I happened to see....H kinda snickered and said "well, she was trying to furnish the love nest...and I didnt do any of it anyway, I tried to give her one of our old ones but that wasnt good enough and you put an end to it anyway (yeah, I remember the days he was going to haul furniture to her, When I was so naive I didnt know there was anything going on....) I have to laugh though, I should have let him take the old one in the basement to her.....
H was kind of flip and snickering during this discussion, the thought that it was high schoolish of both of us occured to me. He commented that "I used the JC (my 42-yearold confirmed batchelor brother)school of relationships theory"...I asked what that was and H said "never give a woman anything they ask for and they'll go away".... hmmmmmmm, wasnt sure what to make of the comment other than it sounded like something a high school sophomore would say, so I let it dropped. I did wonder though if it could mean lingering MLC issues...still some replay????
