New tactics for me.....

[Burgbud]

So again I guess I have hope but I cannot live my life as though it is going to happen and if I can just get that through my thick skull and live for me and not consider him then I think I will be truly DBing and the outcome maybe wont matter so much.

All right Kim, I've got some advice for you, but you won't hurt my feelings if you tell me to go piss up a rope after you read it.

Go on a date.

A real date, not with your buddy Jarrod (unless that is a real date and you've been holding out on us...). You don't have to close any doors on H, you don't have to jump in hot and heavy with the next guy who asks you out (though it works for some people and there's nothing wrong with that!). Just go on a date. And then go on another date. Doesn't have to be with the same guy.

I think that would be great for you and you deserve to feel great. I think it'll affect H. If it does maybe he's not at a place in his life where the two of you are ready to work on your M. So I don't think this is a thing you would do to try to get a reaction from him.

I'll bet if you start dating occasionally, you'll feel better about being just friends with H. You won't worry about your R with him and you won't worry as much about what he's doing in his spare time. Maybe that'll help you work on a friendship with him that can lead to something down the road when he's sorted himself a bit. Maybe it'll lead to not caring when or if he gets himself sorted.

But I just don't see the downside for you right now. I know getting a date isn't quite as easy as falling off a log but I don't think you'll have too much trouble if you allow yourself to start moving in that direction. And you're just looking to have fun so you don't have to search for Mr. Perfect.

Whaddaya think? Good idea or am I off my rocker?