Kim, honey I am sorry that you had to hear that from H. But take what he said with a grain of salt. He sounds as though he is not in a very good place right now, and he lashed out to you where he knew it would hurt.

I noticed that it was all due to you. All of the reasons for your breakup were because of things that you did. Not once did he accept any responsibility. The boy is spouting b/s.

Nearly all of his statements were about how you made him feel. Now I am not a psychologist, but I know no one can make you feel inferior unless you let them. It sounds like he needs to work on himself before he can truly love someone else as they should be loved.

It is said realising that your M has come to this. ( I think I am here also although haven't had that talk yet). But the positives are that now it is your time.

I know you will be loved again. You are loved right now. Maybe H will grow up and wake up to himself. Maybe not. But you take care of yourself and live your life to the fullest. OK.

As an aside I was reading in the Women's Weekly (as you do when you have a life ) about Gaby Kennard that lady that sailed around the world solo. Apparently she was separated from her H at the time and they have since reconciled. So it does happen. I guess if it is meant to be it will be.

Plenty of other fish in the sea. Just need to use the right bait. (and throw them back if they are undersize)

Smile, it makes people wonder what you are up to!