OCKim -thankyou so much for sharing that and i truly feel that you do know what it is like as I have watched your thread and read your advice to others so thankyou again.
You know one thing you said was spot on - the fact that they must blame someone else...How true is that and you know what with my H everything he has been doing since this started has been so out of character for him and I honestly do not think he realises that he is really doing anything wrong. In his eyes he is doing what he must do, but doesn't truly realise what the long term consequences could be as he is only living in the moment and cannot see down the track, he is too caught up in his own needs at the moment that it is unbelievable.
So again I say thanks for understanding and I will try and be more patient instead of getting my back up....KDU
