God love you all - Honestly sometimes I don't know how I would manage without all of you. It's funny I find it much easier to come here and speak honestly about how I feel rather than with lifelong friends and family as none of them have really been thru this so they seem to have the attitude Fu#k Him and move on he isn't worth for what he has done to you but they just don't get it do they, it is not that easy to give up on your marriage especially when you held it sacred.
BB you are right, I know you are 3 steps forward and 2 steps backward it's just those steps backward have me tripping over myself.
Kismet - His brother 2 yrs ago split with his wife and now has another lady friend, he was mid 40's but had a bit of a problem being faithful to his wife right from the beginning whereas I am really my H's first long term serious relationship so I can't really answer your question but yes it is a curly ride.
W - Yes I would like some nibblies in this funny land we find ourselves in so you prepare the nibblies and I will go make the cocktails maybe WCBeth will bring the Cabana Boys
Now as H is showing alot more interest in dropping in to see kids when for 8 months he has just been having S9 when he is supposed to and picking me up for gym and now saying he will come around this weekend to help me get the garden organised as Summer is coming. I don't understand why the sudden change. 8 months he has been one way and now he is changing and meant to be seeing someone so I dont get it.
Is it b/c he isn't with OW who maybe wouldn't allow him to be around me or the kids.
Is it b/c he just wants to help and as this new R is so new he hasn't really got ties to her yet.
Doing it to play with my head (I know least likely)
I just don't get the change as he wasn't doing it before, do I just accept it or do I nicely ask why the sudden change to try and chat but without it relating to R. I am tempted to say something like "Hey question for you and don't take it the wrong way - but can I ask why the sudden change in your attitude - not that I am complaining I just would like to understand why you have changed recently.
What do ya all think??????
Is that pursuing???? See I would normally know these answers but I have got completely off track now....
Started Indoor Beach Volleyball again last night, 1st game in about 6 years, we all know realise how much fitter we all were back then. 1st 2 set we did O.K. as we were only 1 point down after the 2nd Set but boy did we die in the 3rd set and blew out to lose by 10 points. They have put us straight into A Grade mixed so I suppose we didn't do to badly but we were all very sweaty and exhausted after but we had fun which is the main thing. Hopefully we are a bit better next Wednesday.....KDU
